Teens & Neurodiversity: Understanding, supporting & guiding this summer

This week’s Let’s all Talk Mental Health session focused on the unique challenges and opportunities summer can bring for families with neurodivergent teens. While the end of the school term may offer some relief, for many parents it also raises questions: How do we keep a sense of structure without overwhelm? How can we support rest, connection and fun while meeting different needs in the family? And what does it look like to prepare - gently and realistically – for the return to school in September, especially if your teen has been out of school or avoids it altogether?

We were joined by Dr Tamasine Black, Lead Educational and Child Psychologist and founder of Tabla Psychology, who brought over 20 years of experience working with children and families, alongside her deep passion for neurodiversity and her warm, practical approach to psychological support.

Understanding the Summer Struggle

For neurodivergent teens – particularly those with autism and ADHD – summer holidays can be both a blessing and a challenge. On one hand, there’s less pressure, fewer sensory demands, and more freedom. On the other, the loss of routine can bring anxiety, dysregulation, and boredom, which can lead to burnout if not carefully balanced.

Dr Black reminded us that thriving through summer doesn’t mean packing the calendar or avoiding all conflict. It’s about finding a rhythm that allows your teen to rest, feel connected, and enjoy moments of predictability – all while being gently supported to try new things, explore interests, and stay socially engaged in ways that work for them.

Key Takeaways from the Session

 Start with Communication and Flexibility

Open conversations with your teen about what they enjoy, what they find overwhelming, and what they’d like their days to look like, are key. Let their voice be heard in planning holidays or everyday routines. Importantly, stay flexible. Some days might go to plan, others might not, and that’s okay.

Create a Supportive Environment

This might mean introducing visual planners, sensory-friendly tools, or quiet spaces to help your teen feel grounded. Think about what helps your child feel safe and regulated – whether it’s a familiar routine, a calming activity, or proprioceptive supports like a body sock or weighted blanket.

 Balance Autonomy and Structure

Summer doesn’t have to mean chaos – but it shouldn’t mean rigidity either. A flexible framework can help teens balance screen time, social interaction, and rest. Encourage them to help design their schedule. This builds independence and a sense of control, while still offering structure and predictability.

Understand Sensory Needs

Sensory overwhelm can be a real barrier to engagement. Be mindful of environments, transitions, and types of stimulation. If your teen struggles with busy days out or loud gatherings, consider quieter alternatives or build in recovery time afterwards.

Reframe Gaming and Screen Time

For many neurodivergent teens, gaming is more than just a hobby – it’s a way to socialise, relax, and feel competent. Instead of strict limits, think about the function of screen time. Work together to find balance, and provide soothing, non-screen alternatives they genuinely enjoy.

Prioritise Sleep and Wellbeing

Good sleep underpins everything. Explore calming pre-bedtime routines, supportive sleep environments, and practical tools like breathwork or sensory supports. Encouraging exercise and good nutrition can also make a real difference to regulation and mood.

Preparing for School Return – Gently

If school is a challenge for your teen – whether due to anxiety, sensory overwhelm, or previous trauma – it’s not too early to start thinking about September. This might involve gradual exposure, flexible timetables, or even therapeutic support such as EMDR. Start with small steps and stay curious: What’s getting in the way? What might help?

Final Thoughts

Supporting neurodivergent teens through the summer isn’t about fixing or forcing – it’s about meeting them where they are, working with their strengths, and gently scaffolding their needs. As Dr Tamasine Black reminded us, neurodivergence comes with incredible insights, talents, and perspectives. When we create environments that respect and support these differences, young people can truly thrive.